And suddenly we became parents!Written by Children's_University
Written by the director of Paidiko Panepistimio Tatiana Tsaramiadou.
Suddenly when our first child is born we become parents and our marriage is then called ‘’Family’’. It is a new difficult period , as the couple loses their balance to make ‘’space’’ for their baby! The changes that will occur such as , lack of sleep and free time as well as psychological changes will greatly affect the relationship and the way they have been communicating so far.
The old balance is lost and until a new balance appears , there will be some difficulties . Definitely the baby pulls on ‘’the lights’’ while at the same time the couples previous love affair, competes with the parental role. Many moms during the period of motherhood , give more attention to the baby and neglects their husband . The couple is alienated and the mother always finds ‘’plausible’’ excuses for not following her husband to events, on excursions , on activities they used to do together. Mothers often say ‘’ my kids come first and then all the others’’. The children will soon grow and take their own path. We are going to live with our husband and we must be close to him and have a good relationship with him. The father very often feels marginalised or inadequate to offer as much as the mother so he appeals to third people or in other activities to balance his emotions. There are of course some fathers who immediately and spontaneously or with the urging of the mother are actively involved from the first moment to care for the baby and can do just as well as the mother! It is very important for both the parents as well as the childs development to support emotionally each other. They need to understand that if their relationship remains ‘’alive’’ and healthy, then the new form of their family will soon be balanced , the tedious period , the practical and psychological difficulties will be normalized. So , when our first child is born, we suddenly become parents and our marriage is then called a ‘’family’’. But lets not forget that somewhere there is our partner and most importantly for the whole family is this relationship to continue to exist and bloom!